10 Reasons Why You Feel Disconnected to Life.

Do you feel out of sync, not in tune in some way to your life, your career, your relationships?

Do you feel like you are constantly thriving and never arriving at a destination or achievement that will bring ultimate joy and happiness?

Or do you feel like you have lost your energy, identity, spark and that each day you are just going through the motions?

I get it, I felt like that for a long time and living this way created a lot of stress and fear in my life. I was overwhelmed with all of the things in my life and it took me a long time to understand what was amiss.

Through a LOT of inner work, reading, learning and listening I realised that I was out of tune with myself. I was disconnected from me, the real me. I had lost sight of my unique essence and soul purpose.

I was so busy doing and following the expectations of all the people in my external world that I had lost sight of what I wanted to do or achieve in my life. I was living a life of pleasing others and forgot about pleasing myself.

When we live our life with our focus on our external world (jobs, TV, parents, teachers, partners, family, friends, money, religions etc) we detach from the inner signs and signals that our mind, body, heart and spirit is constantly communicating with us. Our external world becomes so loud that we spend our life reacting to the things around us instead of responding with intention or compassion.

Here are 10 reasons why you may be feeling disconnected in your life.

  1. You are living a very stressful life. Stress is the predominant theme in your day and from the commute to work to the deadlines and personal commitments it is all very overwhelming.
  2. Your life is on fast forward, filled to the brim with ALL the things to do. You are so busy trying to fit everything in. Your days and weeks are so jam-packed that they distract you from and limit the time you spend checking in with yourself.
  3. There is less movement throughout your day or week, probably because of 1 and 2 above.
  4. You don’t spend time in nature that often or at all. Your days are spent indoors with no fresh air or connection to the world that you live in.
  5. You have little or no time for fun and play. Maybe you can’t remember the last time you laughed or played around with something new. The seriousness of adult living has taken over and fun and play has been shunned to the side.
  6. You haven’t allowed yourself to be creative and create something new. Busy lives and jobs take up all of your time and you have put your love for drawing, music, painting, singing, crafting etc into a box under the bed.
  7. You are over-consuming information and media around you. You spend hours in front of the TV or on social media, disconnecting you further from your true self and your needs.
  8. You are living your life based on past experiences or future worries and concerns. This makes it impossible to enjoy the ride and appreciate all the wonderful people and things of the present.
  9. You’re goals are not really aligned with you, they belong to society, your parents, your boss. Have you felt yourself ticking boxes of adult life rather than living the life you want? This is because you have been working towards someone else’s goals or dreams.
  10. You don’t make time inward reflection and connection. You don’t know what lights you up or gets you down. You haven’t asked yourself what it is you want in life, work, relationships and because of this you spend your life reacting impulsively instead of responding with intention and insight.

If you want to reconnect and realign with your true self explore one or all of these 10 points. Ask yourself is this true in my life? If it is ask yourself how can you make small changes to realign with your true self.

Ultimately we do things in life to make us feel better, when we are aligned with our true self we feel better. When we are spending more of our time doing things that make us feel better then our lives look very different.

In tuning into our true self we take back our power, we feel free, joyous, peaceful and content – who doesn’t want more of that? When we are in alignment with our heart and soul we can navigate our life with intention and meaning.

Mel x

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My Top 10 Walks in or near Dublin

Last week I spoke about the healing power of nature and how beneficial grounding and being out in nature can be for our health on a deep level. This week I wanted to share with you some of my favourite spots to get out in nature in or around Dublin. I really feel we are truly blessed to live in this beautiful island and having travelled all over the world, very few places have held such a place in my heart as Ireland does. It is the perfect time of the year to get out, explore and be in nature.

My top 10 favourite Spots in or near Dublin

Portmarnock and Malahide coastal walk

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Many of you know about how much I love Portmarnock beach and how often I am down there. The Velvet Strand is a gorgeous beach with beautiful views and a great stretch for walking or running. There is lots of parking along the road or public parking beside Portmarnock Hotel & Golf Links or Portmarnock Golf club. It is close to Dublin City Centre and served by bus, train and dart. You can start your coastal walk from Portmarnock and continue towards Malahide (approx. 4km) for more sea air and gorgeous views.

 

Glendalough – The Spinc Trail and the Derrybawn Woodlawn Trail

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Glendalough is a natural and historical haven for me and has almost a mystical energy to it. There are plenty of tracks and trails (Downloadable PDF) around Glendalough, where you can enjoy views of both the upper and lower lakes, St Kevin’s Church and round tower, Poulanass waterfall and much, much more. A favourite trail of mine is The Spinc which has a lot of uphill and steps but rewards you with magnificent views. If you prefer a flatter terrain Derrybawn Woodlawn trail is another favourite trail of mine.**

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St Catherine’s Park

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St Catherine’s park is a little gem nestled in between Westmanstown and Lucan village consisting of 200 acres of woodland and grassland with the River Liffey running through it. It also has playgrounds, skate parks, football pitches and fairy trails. Whether it is a family day out or a walk with your dog (it also has a dog run). You will love the space and tranquillity of this park.

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St Catherine’s is Rosie’s favourite.

Howth Cliff Walk

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Howth Cliff Walk at sunset is quite magical.

Howth cliff walk is a great trail for all levels of fitness and has so many places of interest and beauty along the trail that you will be spoiled for choice. It is also close to the city centre and easily reached by bus, train or dart. Howth is situated on a peninsula northeast of Dublin City and is a gorgeous fishing town with plenty of places to eat and drink. Along the trail you will have great views of Howth harbour, Ireland’s Eye, Lambay Island, Howth Castle, Howth lighthouse and so much more. I love this trail any time of the year on a clear day as the views are so beautiful.**

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The Phoenix Park  

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The Phoenix Park is notably Dublin’s most famous park and is actually the biggest enclosed park in Europe. Not only is it home to the Irish president and American Ambassador but it is also home to Dublin City Zoo and to a host of wildlife including the famous herd of fallow deer. The park is twice the size of Central Park in New York and is easily accessible from all over Dublin City. Go explore and enjoy all of the trails and activities within.

Bray to Greystones

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Another wonderful coastal walk from one bustling seaside town to another, a little over 6km each way. Both Bray and Greystones are on the dart line and so are easily reached from Dublin City Centre. With beautiful views the whole way around this walk is very popular on any day of the year. Probably more so in recent years as the Happy Pear have really put Greystones on the map. I love to start in Bray, head to the The Happy Pear in Greystones for some delicious food and then make my walk back to Bray.

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St Anne’s Park

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Another great park very close to the city centre and a relatively new favourite of mine having moved to the Northside. It is a big park of about 240 acres nestled in between Raheny and Clontarf and is steeped in nature, history and beauty in equal measure. There is lots to do and see in St Anne’s and plenty of places to wander and explore. My favourite spot to sit and soak it all in is the rose garden. There is always something on in St Anne’s from the weekly fun runs and yoga to the markets and festivals you have no excuse not to visit and enjoy it all.

Hill of Tara

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The Hill of Tara is a little further outside the city, about a 45 minute drive but I promise you it is worth it.  The Hill of Tara is one of the most important and ancient sites in Ireland and can be found with in the mystical Boyne Valley along with Newgrange, Nowth, Dowth, Lough Crew and Slane. There is lots to explore at the Hill of Tara or you can just stroll around and soak in the abundant ancient energy and peace found there. There is a lovely Cafe there also to warm up on a cold day.

Clontarf / Bull Island

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Bull Island is a UNESCO Biosphere reserve and so if you are a nature lover this is the place to go. The special flora and fauna of the reserve attract plenty of wildlife. It is a great place to be within nature and go for a dip while still seeing the famous landmarks of Dublin City – Poolbeg towers, North & South Bull Walls and Howth Head. Right beside  busy Clontarf and newly refurbished Clontarf Baths there is any number of places to eat or grab a coffee after a nice walk. My favourites are Bay, FishboneKennedys  and Happy Out

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A gorgeous shot of the famous wooden bridge to Bull Island by Philip Mulhall

 

Lough Dan, Lough Tay and Knocknacloghoge

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Another stunning area right beside Dublin in the heart of the Wicklow Mountains. We really are spoiled for tracks, trails and stunning scenery in this part of Ireland. This area is a place I love to get lost in for a few hours and breathe in the breathtaking views and at this time of the year I think it is at it’s most beautiful.  Here is a guided walk around the area, this is definitely one not to be missed. Check out Video showing the stunning views.of the area by a wonderful photographer Ciarán Cassidy. **

**Always be careful when venturing out in nature, make sure you have the right equipment and tools to stay on track and are safe on your trail. There are lots of guides and groups that you can join and learn from. Don’t be silly and put yourself in danger.**

The Importance of Grounding

Have you ever sat in nature and felt your whole body untangle? Felt the tensions, stress and knots in your muscles just melt? Felt happy and content?

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National Botanic Gardens, Glasnevin in Autumn

That is the healing power of nature. I simply love the outdoors, walking, hiking, strolling, swimming or just sitting and taking it all in. This is my favourite time of the year. It really feels like there is magic in the air. The extra crisp mornings and evenings showcasing the most beautiful and multicoloured skies at dawn and dusk. In this autumnal air it is like Mother Nature is putting on one last show of beauty and magnificence before the short evenings set in and we nestle down to hibernate for the winter.

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Portmarnock Beach at dawn 2018

It is often with a change in season that people are inspired to get out in nature. If we think back to spring when we were falling over our own feet to get out after a long, cold winter. Then again when the warm summer days graced us for longer than we are used to here in Ireland. Amazing shots from all over our stunning little country flooded our social media pages and everyone was grateful and proud to call it home.

Many people can think of a time, when their emotional state and mood shifted significantly just from being in nature. For me this happens every time. It’s the peace and quiet, the birds chirping, the hills and trees and the ebb and flow of the tide that syncs and reconnects me to Mother Nature and to the present moment also.  I feel the rhythm of nature has the familiarity and peace of our own heartbeat and it brings us back to a place within ourselves that we can be content and truly connected.  We forget how connected we are with nature and the cycles held within. We see ourselves as above or better than nature because of our advanced technology and evolution. We ignore that nature has had it all figured out long before us. In truth, we are one in the same, nourished by earth, facing the sun and living in cycles and seasons.

It is not just a better feeling we get from being in nature, continued research has proven the positive impact nature has on our whole body. Being in nature can reduce stress, improve fitness, increase connection and happiness, quiet the mental chatter, bring more mindfulness and clarity to us while encouraging us to take time away from technology. It can also benefit our sleep, a day’s hiking or breathing in the fresh sea air is a sure way to sleep well that night.

2018-05-04 16.58.51Grounding and earthing literally is reconnecting with the ground beneath us and drawing energy from the natural and physical world we live in. The simple act of walking barefoot at the beach or through the grass can have huge benefits to our health.

Grounding helps us to slow the monkey chatter in our brain and to let go of some or all of the stresses of modern-day life.  In a world that encourages us to stay in our head 24/7, stay switched on to work, to emails, TV, Social Media and a litany of other demands, we need grounding more than ever.

 

 

Significant research has been carried out on the more intricate health benefits of grounding and earthing. Connecting with the earth can have profound impacts on a deeper energetic and cellular level. Our bodies use energy in different ways for different functions.

“In the body, thermal energy helps us to maintain a constant body temperature, mechanical energy helps us to move, and electrical energy sends nerve impulses and fires signals to and from our brains. Energy is stored in foods and in the body as chemical energy”. Ms. Ashley Koff, RD, Nutrition & Dietetics

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Grounding and earthing can help us to neutralise the free radicals (unstable molecules that cause damage and inflammation) in our body and has been proven to reduce inflammation which is the cause of most disease within the body. It can also improve and enhance blood circulation, giving us more energy, more access to nutrients and greater efficiency at eliminating waste from the body. If you think of the electrical wiring in a plug, there is a grounding wire that protects the appliance from surges in electricity that might otherwise be dangerous. In grounding our own electrical circuits, within our bodies, we can prevent inflammation and damage from occurring.

To learn more about the benefits of earthing and grounding watch this trailer from the documentary The Grounded , the full version is also available on You tube.

 

Here are some ideas to get more grounded;

  1. Go for a walk in nature – the woods, mountains, in a local park.**
  2. Stand in your bare feet in the grass/ soil/sand for 5-10 minutes per day. Be present and soak in the whole experience.
  3. Stand with your feet in the sand and allow the water to lap around your feet. Go for a swim in the sea if you are brave enough…I promise it is worth it.
  4. Hiking – Ireland is known for its beauty and although the mountains are not high on a global scale there is no denying that the views are epic. **
  5. Find a spot you LOVE surrounded in nature and preferably close to your home/ work. Go there as often as you can and simply be one with nature and your breath.
  6. Grounding Meditation  -Try this 10 minute Grounding Meditation.

 

**Always be careful when venturing out in nature, make sure you have the right equipment and tools to stay on track and are safe on your trail. There are lots of guides and groups that you can join and learn from. Don’t be silly and put yourself in danger.**

 

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Spinc Trail, Glendalough

Retreating into Nature and Practice

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Eagles Rock Retreat, Carlingford

 A couple of weeks ago I had the absolute pleasure of visiting and teaching at Carlingford Yoga at Eagles Rock Retreat. Nestled amongst the Cooley and Mourne mountains and rolling fields with spectacular views in every direction, it really is the perfect place to switch off and unwind.

 

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Carlingford is in Co, Louth and is part of Ireland’s Ancient East, sharing energy and history with scared sites such as Newgrange and Lough Crew. For me Eagles Rock Retreat exudes that magic and energy making it almost impossible for anyone not to unwind, relax and reconnect with nature and themselves.

 

 

 

Stuart and Martina host yoga weekends at Eagles Rock and are so warm and inviting that we really didn’t want to leave. Their house has beautifully decorated bedrooms and living areas where you can chill, read a book or have a chat. The food provided all weekend is fresh, wholesome, vegetarian and most of all delicious. Let’s just say we were never late for any meal and we wanted all the recipes to try and recreate them at home.

 

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The yoga studio sits at the back of the house, east facing to catch the rising sun for early morning meditations and practice.  With windows all along one side of the room, you will be blown away by the amazing views and peace that perpetuates the studio. It was the most amazing place to teach and hold space for the ladies I shared the weekend with. Martina teaches the classes if you are attending without a yoga teacher and she is a wonderful teacher.

(I attended a retreat with her a couple of years ago and she really is amazing!)

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When we arrived on Friday evening at the long and winding driveway, I knew it was going to be a special weekend and I wasn’t wrong. It was my first retreat to teach at, usually looking for that peace and solace myself, now I was part of creating that for the women who came with me. This was a hen weekend with a difference, this hen (a very good friend of mine) wanted a weekend to relax, unwind and practise yoga and I was delighted to be able to facilitate the yoga for the group.

We arrived at different times and got settled into our new, cosy rooms. We didn’t all know each other so we spent the evening walking around the countryside and chatting over dinner.

The rest of the weekend was spent practising Hatha yoga in the morning, a strong flow to energise the body for the day and gentler Yin practice in the evening with some deep relaxation known as Yoga Nidra.

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There are plenty of tracks and trails around the house for both the avid hill walker and the slow-paced stroller. On Saturday, we ventured down to Templetown beach and into Carlingford town for some tea and cake.

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Strolls along Templetown Beach

 

DSCN1836I created a journal for the weekend, with some insightful questions and techniques to use over the weekend or when they got home. Surprisingly colouring the mandalas was the biggest hit, lots of creative energy wanting to be expressed with this group. Often, we spend so much time looking after others and getting things ‘done’ that we forget to check in with ourselves and the things we want and need in our life. Then get frustrated when we get into a funk and can’t comprehend or articulate why we feel off centre. Journaling can really help us understand, express and let go of things in our lives that no longer serve us.

 

 

My stay brought me lots of peace, growth and gratitude for time spent in great company, in a spectacular venue with beautiful energy. I will be definitely going back again soon as a guest or teacher, either would be bliss!!

 

 

I can’t recommend Carlingford Yoga, Eagles Rock Retreat highly enough for anyone who needs a weekend to unwind, relax and connect with mind, body, spirit and nature.

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Top 5 Tips for a Healthy Autumn

This is my favourite time of the year!! The colours, the crunchy leaves, the gorgeous sunrises and sunsets.  Nature is at its most beautiful and the trees are gently reminding us how beauty can be found in letting things go.
Here are 5 ways to embrace this gorgeous time.

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