More Observing, Less Absorbing

How can we absorb less in a world where we are constantly bombarded with information?

You have probably heard the term, “children are like sponges”, or probably said it yourself many times. When we observe children, we see how much they are influenced by their environment. The phrases and mannerisms they pick up, the language and the habits they quickly learn. We can also see how influenced they are by big emotions, even when a parent or caregiver tries to hide it from them, they can still sense it on a deeper level.

In truth, we are all sponges and absorb the information in our environment in a variety of ways. And while we observe it in children, we forget to see that we too continue to be influenced by and are sponges within our environments.

E-motionsEmotions are energy in motion.

This can have both a draining or a nourishing impact on us. If we are surrounded by caring, compassionate, patient and encouraging people our internal and external habits, patterns and beliefs will reflect that. And similarly, if we are surrounded by judgemental, critical, closeminded or negative people our internal and external habits, patterns and beliefs will reflect that too.

If you think about the places, people and spaces that make up the environment in which you live your life, you will quickly identify the igniters and the drains. The igniters are those that lift you, encourage you, support and inspire you. The drains are those who demand your time and energy, expect a lot from you, seem overly dependent on you and or disregard your boundaries.

It is also powerful to reflect on how you react within these situations and where you move into draining or depleting actions or igniting, radiating and grounded actions.

Emotions make our connections conscious and bring meaning to our actions and relationships. They are the messengers of the body & soul – learn that language and become a conscious participant in your life.

You could say that some people are more absorbent than others. We might call these children or adults sensitive or highly emotional or maybe what is more truthful is that these people are more attuned to the emotions (e-motion -energy in motion) around them. The issue isn’t feeling other people’s emotions or feeling “too much” because you are sensitive or highly attuned to your environment. The issue is taking on the responsibility of those emotions, from another and not honouring your boundaries and needs.

When we don’t know how to ‘wring the sponge’ out from the excess in our environment we carry it with us into all areas of our life. This can be really debilitating, limiting, restrictive and or isolating.

Reflection

Where in your life are their drains or igniters?

When and where do you take responsibility for the feelings of others?

What would wringing out the sponge look like for you? Do you need additional support to learn ways to do this?

Le grá,

Mel

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