Opening the Door to Healing and Growth

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

— Rumi,

How well do you know yourself?

Most people never take the time to truly know themselves on the deepest of levels. Instead they paddle in the shallow waters content with following the herd and keeping up with the status quo.

The deeper we know ourselves the more we grow and learn and experience life to the fullest.

When we consciously choose to start the journey inward, we are deciding to take control of our life once again.

We are committing to knowing ourselves, our true selves.

We are committing to a life of meaning, joy, purpose, value, freedom and belonging.

You have to go within to see, that’s why it is called insight.

The ancient mystics and masters have been teaching us for thousands of years that the divine is within us all and that we can be the master of our own miraculous life.

However, throughout the years their message was distorted through fear and ego to gain power and we were led to believe that control of our life is out of our reach.

When we seek to know our true selves again, we reclaim our power and our ability to shape the life we wish to have.

We get to choose if the people, situations, experiences and stories that formed the narrative of our life up to now control how we feel or react.

Or as Rumi suggests we can choose to welcome everyone into our home to help us to heal, grow or clear our space for something much greater to come in, “because each has been sent as a guide from beyond”.

Do you go through life reacting to situations and experiences, never really observing them?

Do you get lost in the story and the emotion that arises in these moments?

Are you easily triggered by what someone says or does, even if it is not directed at you?

These behaviours, reactions and triggers occur because somewhere along our journey we were hurt and taught that to be that way was not acceptable.

In an attempt to protect ourselves we skilfully created masks and built walls of defence. We created this version of who we think the world needs us to be so that we will be will loved, accepted or worthy – because to not be is our greatest fear.

We didn’t realise that in creating this other version of ourselves we were hiding our uniquely, authentic and beautiful whole self from the world.

When we practice observing our reactions and triggers, we begin to learn a lot about ourselves.

We realise that to ignore, hide or project our emotions is not helpful to ourselves or to those around us.

We begin to see patterns and recurrent triggers that cause us to react (and overreact) instead of responding.

We begin to see that the people and situations in our life are our mirrors, reflecting back to us what we need to know or heal so that we can grow.

Will you open the door to healing, growth, purpose, opportunity, abundance and joy or will you settle for mediocrity or suffering and hide safely amongst the herd?

The choice is yours and yours alone?

Why fit in when you were born to stand out? – Dr Seuss

If you are ready to open the door but want some guidance I offer 1:1 coaching that will empower you to add value, purpose, joy and fulfilment to your life.

Melanie x

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