‘Just think more positively…’
Easier said than done and not the best advice if you’ve a had a crap day, week or even year. It is the last thing you want to hear in that moment and probably the least helpful. Especially if you are up to your eyes with work, you feel like your relationships are falling apart and life continues to throw curve balls right at your face (or so it seems). We’ve all been there, when it all gets a bit too much and we just want to hide under the covers. Cue Positive Polly, telling you to ‘think positive’ and you may feel like doing something unquestionable to poor Polly.
Thinking positive and being positive is great, don’t get me wrong. I try to look at most situations I find myself in positively but are positive thoughts or quotes enough to stop the momentum of a bad mood, day or week? Stopping that momentum is like trying to stop a car speeding down a steep hill, when it is nearly at the bottom of the down the hill. Instead of trying to stop the car midway down the hill, why not try stop it at the top before it gets going?
If we change the way, we view things we can change our lives. Some of you may think that this is a bold statement, but I have seen so many examples of this that I know it to be true. Our perception of things, people and situations can trick us into believing something that is not as it seems.
Wayne Dyer says it best, ‘When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change’. Our perceptions are not a case of one being right and another being wrong, we are just seeing things differently. It makes sense that we would view things differently from our friends or colleagues when our values, experiences, upbringings have all been different.
I have shifted my mind-set in many ways in different areas of my life, using different techniques and strategies but my secret weapon is gratitude.
When we are in a bad mood, unmotivated, fed up or in a bit of a funk we are operating from a place of lack. From a place where there is the absence of something material, emotional, spiritual etc. When you are thinking, feeling and acting from a sense of lack, then that is what you will see mirrored back to you in your daily encounters and experiences.
When you start to shift your perspective, and see all the great things that are present in your life and be grateful for them, you start to make room for more of that to flow into your life. Often when we start to notice the things we are grateful for each day, we notice that they quickly start to outweigh the bad.
Gratitude is like a muscle we have to build, to give it power and strength. The words, written, spoken or thought can be powerful in their own rite. However, if you really want to amplify their power, you must FEEL the gratitude within. Sit with your list of things you are grateful for, for as little as 2 or 3 minutes and feel that gratitude spread throughout your whole body.
When you start to practice gratitude, you will be surprised at how quickly your mind set will shift. You may find that you are feeling brighter or happier. Your encounters with your family, friends and colleagues will adjust and change for the better. Once you start thinking, saying, writing about the things you are grateful for in your life, your list of things to be grateful for will grow and grow and your life will become so much more abundant in every which way.
Here are some ways you can practice gratitude in your daily life;
- Start simply, count your blessings right now.
- At the start and end of your day think or 3 things you are grateful for. If you are stuck, try this affirmation – I am so, so grateful for all that I am and all that I have.
- Say thank you to others, sometimes we’re too busy to take the time to say it at all. I don’t only mean in a mannerly sense, say thanks to the people in your life for the support, help, love they show you. Don’t wait for an occasion like birthdays or Christmas, tell them now. Kind words or a smile of thanks can change a person’s whole day.
- Be grateful as you sit down to eat or drink.
- Think / write about what you are grateful for in the different areas of your life – your mind, your body, your soul, your home, your family, your friends, your work, your finances, all the amazing things you have and are right now. Block out the past and future as you count your blessings now, in this very moment.
- Start a gratitude journal, write down what you are thankful for each day. Even a list in a notebook is just as powerful if journaling isn’t really your thing.
“It is only with gratitude that life becomes rich”, Dietrich Bonhoeffer
Love and light,